So on number 9: I am a working dad and when my wife asked to stay home 3 years ago I encouraged it. It does hurt that I never had the bond she got but I was happy they got that time together.
Now she is divorcing me. I WANT that relationship with the kids, I was willing to let my wife have it since I knew I could make more, but I wanted it.
Now the best interest of the kids is to have more time with mom
But if this happens I literally won't able to afford to live. So I'm losing my house, my time with my children AND all the money I could use to support an environment for them.
I don't know what to do, I feel taken advantage of and stuck
#4 spending money wildly is what he did that led to our divorce, but yeah, i suspect he's doing that right now during our separation. he's already gone out bought a brand new iphone and iwatch, how did he afford that?
I’m going through divorce and my husband wants me to sign off on a quit claim deed on the house that him and his father owns where we resided at during part of our marriage. The house has sold and in escrow. I’m not sure if I have any rights to the property.. I live in California and had no idea my signature was needed… they are pressuring me to sign. Any advice will help.. thank you
Dirty trick #12: Wake up your spouse 2 o'clock every morning and ask him/her if sh /he really wants to go through with the divorce…..Doing this for two months takes out the will to fight better than anything else.
Holy hell. My "spouse" has been a horrible person. He has violated so many injunctions and I have been unable to get a lawyer because I have been isolated and financially abused for a decade. He took my children a year ago and had used them to control me and worse.
All these Yt video tutorials actually don’t work ! their solutions doesn’t exist ! YouTube content creators care more about the views and the pay… The best professional cyber security computerist who literally gets everything done. Thanks and keep it up every time Soshu Tech
I cannot imagine completing this project without you Soshu Tech . You are amazing. Thank you for being there for me. Not a single effort of yours will go in vain. You will be rewarded for your pain. Your hard work will bring you a lot of gains. Well done. Your achievements speaks itself about your capabilities. Slow and steady makes it to the top! Good job! Jon
I went through a lot of financial crisis after my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college,just hope it encourages someone that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing is a grand choice I made. Great video! Thanks for sharing!
5:20 Stop with the "fair" and "equitable" talk. Marriage isn’t about fairness or equity—it’s about what’s legal in that state. In a no-fault divorce system, a spouse can cheat, move on with someone else, file for divorce, and still be entitled to 50% of the marital assets in a community property state. This applies even if they contributed nothing financially or stayed home without raising children. It’s about equal outcome, not fairness or equity. In equitable distribution states, the word "fair" should be eliminated because it’s ultimately left to the court’s discretion, which can still result in outcomes that feel—and are—unequal to one party. As I said, it’s about what is legal in that state. When states removed cause from divorce proceedings, "fair" and "equal" lost all real meaning in modern divorces. Only the lawyers win in America. We should pattern our family law on something similar to Sweden.
Very helpful video.! I have a question. I’m going true divorce, my husband hired a lawyer’s firm, he make my financial situation to the point to make difficult for me to hire a lawyer, please I need help to hire you and pay, please I need help. Can you help me ?.. Miami, Florida. Thank you
Excellent video! My wife of 40 years is doing 10 out of 11 of these trick/tactics. I've worked for 40 years and she stayed home and managed our assets and then she starved me by only paying the monthly minimum on my only credit card. I motioned the court and they did nothing. These courts are bias towards women. Really bad in MI. I liked and subscribed.
I filed for divorce in 2019. We agreed to try marriage counseling, for the 2nd time in 2yrs, then, Covid hit. i tried "faking it til i made it" but i was tired and the insanity of trying finally hit me. I was tired of the financial abuse, the abandonment, the treatment of not mattering and not having a voice. In 2023, i got another lawyer to file and found out my 2019 petition was still active. I took out a loan in my own name bc thats how i got income or any money for myself, paid this new lawyer a 4k retainer. I wasnt on the bank account, or debit card, mortgages, cars, etc. I was told "youll leave with the 1 box you moved in with." When i say I'd rather have been hit every now and then over being ignored, trapped, feeling like my life goals are stupid and being told my kids wouldnt have a roof over their heads bc Id lose it when my business fell through. The emotional, mental & financial abuse added with being ignored, having to hand over receipts, not having friends bc he was jealous. I was treated worse than our pets. He bought a house without me knowing. Anywho, its Jan 2025 and nothings settled. Im asking for my 50%. He has 3 homes, 1 a premarital multiunit, cars, quads, boats, 401k, pension, etc. I have NOTHING. I havent worked a fulltime job bc i was married and caring for our kids. I had to leave. I dont want the houses, just my share of their equity and increase in value since marriage. I didnt want 50% of his 401 or pension but this past year, i suffered a back injury which has me out of work, i have 0 income. Im 35k in debt and my great credit score of 769 is now 523. We had the homes appraised in 2023. The price for our main home which was all newly remodeled was 260k. Last year, a house identical to ours a block away, but 1,000 sq ft smaller and no yard, from our main home, sold for 249k. The premarital home needs a new appraisal for its value on 2010, when we got married. Ghe appraiser wants 300$ to DRIVE PAST THE HOUSE, take pics of the outside (which she has from 2023) to give my lawyer its 2010 value. I dont have 300. When i start thinking of the money I need to put in, which i dont have, i feel like, "whats the point?" All I wanted was a roof over my head, a car and extra money to buy furniture and so forth. His lawyer keeps coming back with OPTIONS for me to pick from. At this point, im ready to have a judge intervene but my lawyer keeps telling me its 750$ upfront. Where do these lawyers think Im gonna pull this money out of?! Why cant my spouse, the bread winner, pay for it? Im homeless, canr afford rent, cant afford my car, insurance or anything at the moment. Im just at a point where id take less than what i deserve just to get this shit over with already and start my new life. My son is his fathers buddy. I know my son is taking his dads side and he doesnt want to go with me anywhere, he wont even give my boyfriend a chance but i get it. My girls, they knew how unhappy and hollow i was for so many years. Theyre happy im finally happy. I may need to look into disability bc of my injury and i just feel lost. My lawyer just NOW asked for his pension finances. We did that whole finance packet in Oct 2023. Ive worked harder on getting info than my lawyer or her paralegals have. Im pissed but i feel like beggars cant be chosers. I was told id get a lump payment for the houses, his 401 and pension will roll over into a account which i cant touch untol retirment.
Move fast and decisively – especially if divorce is mentioned or hinted at – talk early even now beforehand to Men who have been through divorce and you will anticipate all moves – and don’t ever think that these dirty tricks will not happen to you.
Dirty trick no. 11 – I didn’t get caught here – there was a disagreement about some joint income that should have been deposited to a joint account – with quick work both accounts were frozen. I simply had my salary deposited to a new account in a different bank, the ex was unable to have a freeze put on this account. And yes I had a new credit card at the new bank and immediately canceled the old credit account for which she had a card. The ex had to survive on the money earned from a low paying job.
Dirty trick number 9 – IMHO I Disagree with anything but 50/50 parenting time – it should be the automatic default – forget the past where Dad may have been the sole provider – we are entering a new phase, the contract has been broken, both parents must now work or provide financially for the children. The income level of each parent is irrelevant both should provide equally from a financial perspective. An arrangement other than 50/50 care can be negotiated but the formula must be based on the minimum standard wage, not actual incomes. Boy can I hear the strong independent don’t need no man feminists whining now with their double standards.
20 yrs three kids. All for a conman she totally f me over. PFA awarded even know she admits I've never hit her. Puts me in prison. Uses her hospital job to trick me into a evaluation/setup where I'm shiped to a funny farm. Steals my money disappears. Absolute cunt
Wow! What a parasite! Teaching women how to plunder from men's hard work. All directed at men being the sole blame for a failed marriage. This two tier system will have its day in court once more men become aware of this scam called marriage. It only favours women regardless of how much of a psychopath she is. No matter what crime she commits, she will never be held accountable.
In 1969, at age 19, I observed the PLAGUE of divorce. I decided never to get married or have children. Not worth the risk of social and financial disaster for me as a man.
I just gone through a hard breakup. A few months ago, my five-year relationship ended, and it has been really difficult. I can't seem to get my ex lover off my mind, and I still love him a lot. Nothing I've tried to get him back has worked, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. Although sharing this here may seem strange, I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.
Never get married. Unless you are a poor person lusting for all the power. There is zero benefit except for the pathetic, medical and taxes. Not worth losing half to a leech that doesn't care because they feel unhappy. Marriage is not with God but with Family Law judges and the system is broken.
British ex wife here … hidden accounts, contributing v little to the family account and he put me £30k in debt before I woke up. He was laughing at me and I didn’t know it … I worked two jobs whilst he spent money on anything he liked. I wasn’t dependent on him, I paid all the bills etc. He was never fair to our family and we all suffered greatly at his hands and financial control. The UK courts put things right.
It’s not a dirty trick to move your paycheck to a separate account. If your spouse leaves you, they should not have access to your continued paychecks.
I hope you make a future video about lawyers fees I’m way over $10,000. It hasn’t been a year yet. One email $30 One phone call $90 I’m in the Philadelphia area
Thanks. Great report. One of the best videos on the subject I have seen. Sounds a lot like my cousin's ex-husband did. She had a great lawyer who kept tracking him down and making him comply with the divorce degree. Dirty Trick#12. The spouse #2 jumps from state to state to evade obeying the divorce decree, so the spouse #1 has to sue #2 in each of those states to force #2 to comply with the original divorce decree. that happened to my cousin. Her ex-husband kept moving from state to state to evade paying for child support.
again in the video, why does it have to be mom that has the custody? Why can’t mom be the breadwinner and dad stay at home like I did for over 15 years
Is it possible to file for a divoce without a lawyer? Married 8 yrs. No kids, no property, no joint credit cards together. We have our own separate banking accounts and one joint account to pay the rent. There is no extra savings in that account.
He does owe me $3,400 half the balance of the total tax fee of $6,800 i paid from my personal account to avoid interest charges from tax year 2022 so we can file separately. He claimed the balance would go away if we didn't acknowledge it. So he had no intentions of paying it!
This will be the 1st year we will be filing separately. Now that the balance is paid.
What happens if we both have our own separate accounts and one joint account just to pay the rent and household maintenance if needed. The joint account doesn't have any savings in it.
I was a stay at home mom who just spent close $20 of my inheritance in lawyers fee which has been going on for exactly 2 yrs yesterday and my lawyer is just dilly dallying. Not only just the delay I have been told by my counselor that my to be ex can’t afford to give me financial support what I need as bare minimum and here I am thinking that my lawyer will have my best interest Any suggestions I am all ears
So on number 9:
I am a working dad and when my wife asked to stay home 3 years ago I encouraged it. It does hurt that I never had the bond she got but I was happy they got that time together.
Now she is divorcing me. I WANT that relationship with the kids, I was willing to let my wife have it since I knew I could make more, but I wanted it.
Now the best interest of the kids is to have more time with mom
But if this happens I literally won't able to afford to live. So I'm losing my house, my time with my children AND all the money I could use to support an environment for them.
I don't know what to do, I feel taken advantage of and stuck
The number 1 dirty trick is breaking your commitment and hiring a lawyer.
Can money received from the death of a family member, can be used in the marital portion as equal distribution?
You know I don't care at all. Go f*** whatever you want I'm sure somebody was driving your truck the other night because it was full so far forward.
Is there a limit or maximum years to prevent alimony??
#4 spending money wildly is what he did that led to our divorce, but yeah, i suspect he's doing that right now during our separation. he's already gone out bought a brand new iphone and iwatch, how did he afford that?
I’m going through divorce and my husband wants me to sign off on a quit claim deed on the house that him and his father owns where we resided at during part of our marriage. The house has sold and in escrow. I’m not sure if I have any rights to the property.. I live in California and had no idea my signature was needed… they are pressuring me to sign. Any advice will help.. thank you
Dirty trick #12: Wake up your spouse 2 o'clock every morning and ask him/her if sh
/he really wants to go through with the divorce…..Doing this for two months takes out the will to fight better than anything else.
Holy hell. My "spouse" has been a horrible person. He has violated so many injunctions and I have been unable to get a lawyer because I have been isolated and financially abused for a decade. He took my children a year ago and had used them to control me and worse.
Pre-Nup!!!
All these Yt video tutorials actually don’t work ! their solutions doesn’t exist ! YouTube content creators care more about the views and the pay… The best professional cyber security computerist who literally gets everything done. Thanks
and keep it up every time Soshu Tech
I cannot imagine completing this project without you Soshu Tech . You are amazing. Thank you for being there for me. Not a single effort of yours will go in vain. You will be rewarded for your pain. Your hard work will bring you a lot of gains. Well done. Your achievements speaks itself about your capabilities. Slow and steady makes it to the top! Good job! Jon
The best way as a man to avoid being robbed by lawyers mafia is to never get married. That's all it is today.
I went through a lot of financial crisis after my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college,just hope it encourages someone that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing is a grand choice I made. Great video! Thanks for sharing!
5:20 Stop with the "fair" and "equitable" talk. Marriage isn’t about fairness or equity—it’s about what’s legal in that state. In a no-fault divorce system, a spouse can cheat, move on with someone else, file for divorce, and still be entitled to 50% of the marital assets in a community property state. This applies even if they contributed nothing financially or stayed home without raising children. It’s about equal outcome, not fairness or equity. In equitable distribution states, the word "fair" should be eliminated because it’s ultimately left to the court’s discretion, which can still result in outcomes that feel—and are—unequal to one party. As I said, it’s about what is legal in that state. When states removed cause from divorce proceedings, "fair" and "equal" lost all real meaning in modern divorces. Only the lawyers win in America. We should pattern our family law on something similar to Sweden.
@08:11 The words every attorney loves to hear "after a lengthy discovery process". All billable hours baby!
Very helpful video.! I have a question. I’m going true divorce, my husband hired a lawyer’s firm, he make my financial situation to the point to make difficult for me to hire a lawyer, please I need help to hire you and pay, please I need help. Can you help me ?.. Miami, Florida. Thank you
Excellent video! My wife of 40 years is doing 10 out of 11 of these trick/tactics. I've worked for 40 years and she stayed home and managed our assets and then she starved me by only paying the monthly minimum on my only credit card. I motioned the court and they did nothing. These courts are bias towards women. Really bad in MI.
I liked and subscribed.
I filed for divorce in 2019. We agreed to try marriage counseling, for the 2nd time in 2yrs, then, Covid hit. i tried "faking it til i made it" but i was tired and the insanity of trying finally hit me. I was tired of the financial abuse, the abandonment, the treatment of not mattering and not having a voice. In 2023, i got another lawyer to file and found out my 2019 petition was still active. I took out a loan in my own name bc thats how i got income or any money for myself, paid this new lawyer a 4k retainer. I wasnt on the bank account, or debit card, mortgages, cars, etc. I was told "youll leave with the 1 box you moved in with." When i say I'd rather have been hit every now and then over being ignored, trapped, feeling like my life goals are stupid and being told my kids wouldnt have a roof over their heads bc Id lose it when my business fell through. The emotional, mental & financial abuse added with being ignored, having to hand over receipts, not having friends bc he was jealous. I was treated worse than our pets. He bought a house without me knowing. Anywho, its Jan 2025 and nothings settled. Im asking for my 50%. He has 3 homes, 1 a premarital multiunit, cars, quads, boats, 401k, pension, etc. I have NOTHING. I havent worked a fulltime job bc i was married and caring for our kids. I had to leave. I dont want the houses, just my share of their equity and increase in value since marriage. I didnt want 50% of his 401 or pension but this past year, i suffered a back injury which has me out of work, i have 0 income. Im 35k in debt and my great credit score of 769 is now 523. We had the homes appraised in 2023. The price for our main home which was all newly remodeled was 260k. Last year, a house identical to ours a block away, but 1,000 sq ft smaller and no yard, from our main home, sold for 249k. The premarital home needs a new appraisal for its value on 2010, when we got married. Ghe appraiser wants 300$ to DRIVE PAST THE HOUSE, take pics of the outside (which she has from 2023) to give my lawyer its 2010 value. I dont have 300. When i start thinking of the money I need to put in, which i dont have, i feel like, "whats the point?" All I wanted was a roof over my head, a car and extra money to buy furniture and so forth. His lawyer keeps coming back with OPTIONS for me to pick from. At this point, im ready to have a judge intervene but my lawyer keeps telling me its 750$ upfront. Where do these lawyers think Im gonna pull this money out of?! Why cant my spouse, the bread winner, pay for it? Im homeless, canr afford rent, cant afford my car, insurance or anything at the moment. Im just at a point where id take less than what i deserve just to get this shit over with already and start my new life. My son is his fathers buddy. I know my son is taking his dads side and he doesnt want to go with me anywhere, he wont even give my boyfriend a chance but i get it. My girls, they knew how unhappy and hollow i was for so many years. Theyre happy im finally happy. I may need to look into disability bc of my injury and i just feel lost. My lawyer just NOW asked for his pension finances. We did that whole finance packet in Oct 2023. Ive worked harder on getting info than my lawyer or her paralegals have. Im pissed but i feel like beggars cant be chosers. I was told id get a lump payment for the houses, his 401 and pension will roll over into a account which i cant touch untol retirment.
Move fast and decisively – especially if divorce is mentioned or hinted at – talk early even now beforehand to Men who have been through divorce and you will anticipate all moves – and don’t ever think that these dirty tricks will not happen to you.
Dirty trick no. 11 – I didn’t get caught here – there was a disagreement about some joint income that should have been deposited to a joint account – with quick work both accounts were frozen. I simply had my salary deposited to a new account in a different bank, the ex was unable to have a freeze put on this account. And yes I had a new credit card at the new bank and immediately canceled the old credit account for which she had a card. The ex had to survive on the money earned from a low paying job.
Dirty trick number 9 – IMHO I Disagree with anything but 50/50 parenting time – it should be the automatic default – forget the past where Dad may have been the sole provider – we are entering a new phase, the contract has been broken, both parents must now work or provide financially for the children. The income level of each parent is irrelevant both should provide equally from a financial perspective. An arrangement other than 50/50 care can be negotiated but the formula must be based on the minimum standard wage, not actual incomes. Boy can I hear the strong independent don’t need no man feminists whining now with their double standards.
20 yrs three kids. All for a conman she totally f me over. PFA awarded even know she admits I've never hit her. Puts me in prison. Uses her hospital job to trick me into a evaluation/setup where I'm shiped to a funny farm. Steals my money disappears. Absolute cunt
When do I yell out BINGO? I got a 1,2,3,4,7 and a 10 please god, help me……
Wow! What a parasite! Teaching women how to plunder from men's hard work. All directed at men being the sole blame for a failed marriage. This two tier system will have its day in court once more men become aware of this scam called marriage. It only favours women regardless of how much of a psychopath she is. No matter what crime she commits, she will never be held accountable.
In 1969, at age 19, I observed the PLAGUE of divorce. I decided never to get married or have children. Not worth the risk of social and financial disaster for me as a man.
Now, at age 75—–
BEST DECISION EVER!
Don't get married
I just gone through a hard breakup. A few months ago, my five-year relationship ended, and it has been really difficult. I can't seem to get my ex lover off my mind, and I still love him a lot. Nothing I've tried to get him back has worked, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. Although sharing this here may seem strange, I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.
What if they are hiding them in other women's names, their friends or childrens name?
Never get married. Unless you are a poor person lusting for all the power. There is zero benefit except for the pathetic, medical and taxes. Not worth losing half to a leech that doesn't care because they feel unhappy. Marriage is not with God but with Family Law judges and the system is broken.
So not allowed to financially starve a partner but its ok to sexually starve a partner? Cause how many marriages are sexless…. Ill wait
British ex wife here … hidden accounts, contributing v little to the family account and he put me £30k in debt before I woke up. He was laughing at me and I didn’t know it … I worked two jobs whilst he spent money on anything he liked. I wasn’t dependent on him, I paid all the bills etc. He was never fair to our family and we all suffered greatly at his hands and financial control. The UK courts put things right.
It’s not a dirty trick to move your paycheck to a separate account. If your spouse leaves you, they should not have access to your continued paychecks.
Great vid! The attorneys are the only winners in an ugly divorce.
I hope you make a future video about lawyers fees I’m way over $10,000. It hasn’t been a year yet.
One email $30
One phone call $90
I’m in the Philadelphia area
I hope you make a future video about lawyers fees I’m way over $10,000. It hasn’t been a year yet.
One email $30
One phone call $90
What I'm hearing is women will do whatever it takes to destroy a man during divorce.
there's nothing Fair or Equitable in divorce
Buy and enjoy a $400k Lamborghini. It's cheaper and more fun in the long run.
Thanks. Great report. One of the best videos on the subject I have seen. Sounds a lot like my cousin's ex-husband did. She had a great lawyer who kept tracking him down and making him comply with the divorce degree. Dirty Trick#12. The spouse #2 jumps from state to state to evade obeying the divorce decree, so the spouse #1 has to sue #2 in each of those states to force #2 to comply with the original divorce decree. that happened to my cousin. Her ex-husband kept moving from state to state to evade paying for child support.
Good stuff…thanks….it’s sad though
Pro tip: physical money can't be tracked and is the easiest to hide.
again in the video, why does it have to be mom that has the custody? Why can’t mom be the breadwinner and dad stay at home like I did for over 15 years
why is it that you continue to say he and not she ?????????
Being a virgin >>>>>>>>>>> having a wife
Is it possible to file for a divoce without a lawyer? Married 8 yrs. No kids, no property, no joint credit cards together. We have our own separate banking accounts and one joint account to pay the rent. There is no extra savings in that account.
He does owe me $3,400 half the balance of the total tax fee of $6,800 i paid from my personal account to avoid interest charges from tax year 2022 so we can file separately.
He claimed the balance would go away if we didn't acknowledge it. So he had no intentions of paying it!
This will be the 1st year we will be filing separately. Now that the balance is paid.
What happens if we both have our own separate accounts and one joint account just to pay the rent and household maintenance if needed. The joint account doesn't have any savings in it.
I was a stay at home mom who just spent close $20 of my inheritance in lawyers fee which has been going on for exactly 2 yrs yesterday and my lawyer is just dilly dallying. Not only just the delay I have been told by my counselor that my to be ex can’t afford to give me financial support what I need as bare minimum and here I am thinking that my lawyer will have my best interest
Any suggestions I am all ears