Wife controls all assets. Retirement, stocks, and cash in her name. I am listed as co-owner of house. She filed for divorce after 29 years of marriage because I was unemployed and had debts I didn't tell her about. I made double her income for more than 15 years, and all my money went into the family… I was a good husband and father. She cut me off financially two months before I started my new job. We live in a communal property state. Her lawyer didn't inform her that I could have claim to 50% of her retirement and cash (from inheritance). Now there are fireworks. We are going back and forth with settlement offers. First court date in a week. At this point I just want this over and resolved. I have a good attorney, and given communal property law I am in a good place. I would settle for less than 50/50.
Breadwinner wife with an entitled and controlling husband who stopped working a couple of years into our marriage and has remained unemployed for 5+ years. No kids (he didn’t want them), i did the housework, he refused couples counseling and his own therapy, did not want to work in relationship but blames me for marriage demise. Very low self esteem and took his failures out on me. I supported him during our marriage and now he is getting temporary alimony from me and refusing to negotiate, ignoring emails from lawyers and representing himself. Shamed for not “picking better”, shamed for staying and allowing mistreatment, shamed for leaving and not “supporting my husband” during tough times. No videos for women like me, so I have to google divorce videos for men. 😂
Heres a thought for surviving divorce. DON'T GET MARRIED guys. It amazes me how many men just go ahead and get married with total ignorance and naivate. Real simple guys just don't married.
1 you want it? Keep it 2. Don’t waste time with attorney (time IS $$) 3. Think & plan 4. File first (be petitioner/plaintiff) 5. Temporary orders become permanent 6. Don’t say to your wife what you don’t want said/read in court 7. Lead the life that you say you lead (your lifestyle is your testimony) 8. Do not lie 9. Let it go 10. Keep it to yourself (keep new $$ to yourself) Bonus: think before you remarry (just don’t do it)
Hold on here. No one ever “wins” a divorce case. The best you can say is helped clients achieve independence with minimal drama. Start with that. A sure loss is if the divorce attorneys end up significantly enriched by the divorcing parties.
Fellow experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Great video! Keep up the great work! Better yet for anyone reading this: stay safe. Stay single!
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
You’ve given invaluable advice for free here sir. Godsend.
Rule #1 – 247:
$kank$ $teal, do NOT trust tra$bucket$.
Pre-Nup!!!!!!!!!!
Wife controls all assets. Retirement, stocks, and cash in her name. I am listed as co-owner of house. She filed for divorce after 29 years of marriage because I was unemployed and had debts I didn't tell her about. I made double her income for more than 15 years, and all my money went into the family… I was a good husband and father. She cut me off financially two months before I started my new job. We live in a communal property state. Her lawyer didn't inform her that I could have claim to 50% of her retirement and cash (from inheritance). Now there are fireworks. We are going back and forth with settlement offers. First court date in a week. At this point I just want this over and resolved. I have a good attorney, and given communal property law I am in a good place. I would settle for less than 50/50.
People need to stop getting married.
An attorney told me marriage is a business deal nothing more and nothing less! Don't ever get married! Think about it
Takeaway don’t get married 🤔
Marriage is a joke
Breadwinner wife with an entitled and controlling husband who stopped working a couple of years into our marriage and has remained unemployed for 5+ years. No kids (he didn’t want them), i did the housework, he refused couples counseling and his own therapy, did not want to work in relationship but blames me for marriage demise. Very low self esteem and took his failures out on me. I supported him during our marriage and now he is getting temporary alimony from me and refusing to negotiate, ignoring emails from lawyers and representing himself. Shamed for not “picking better”, shamed for staying and allowing mistreatment, shamed for leaving and not “supporting my husband” during tough times. No videos for women like me, so I have to google divorce videos for men. 😂
Good points.
They can take everything but not my liberty!!🗽
question regarding rule #10: an ex-wife can really keep taking things from you even after the divorce is finalized?? how far does that go?
If you are not having kids, there is absolutely zero reason to marry. Get a vasectomy and again don't do it. You'll regret it.
Well… raising a granddaughter AND my wife’s on disability. Guess I’m fucked 4 ways from Sunday..smh
There are only 2 rules….
Rule #1: Don't get married.
Rule #2: See rule #1
Heres a thought for surviving divorce. DON'T GET MARRIED guys. It amazes me how many men just go ahead and get married with total ignorance and naivate. Real simple guys just don't married.
I’m in the process of divorce and I filed it first. She’s making money than me and can I get a spousal support even I have a pending criminal case?
1 you want it? Keep it
2. Don’t waste time with attorney (time IS $$)
3. Think & plan
4. File first (be petitioner/plaintiff)
5. Temporary orders become permanent
6. Don’t say to your wife what you don’t want said/read in court
7. Lead the life that you say you lead (your lifestyle is your testimony)
8. Do not lie
9. Let it go
10. Keep it to yourself (keep new $$ to yourself)
Bonus: think before you remarry (just don’t do it)
Hold on here. No one ever “wins” a divorce case. The best you can say is helped clients achieve independence with minimal drama. Start with that. A sure loss is if the divorce attorneys end up significantly enriched by the divorcing parties.
Fellow experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Great video! Keep up the great work! Better yet for anyone reading this: stay safe. Stay single!
NEVER, EVER trust a woman completely. 37 yrs. gone down the toilet!!!
Man thanks!
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.